Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Narcissism

On the Rise in America?


One study found that 30 percent of young people were classified as narcissistic according to a widely used psychological test. That number has doubled in the last 30 years. Another study reported a 40-percent decline among young people in empathy, a personality attribute inversely related to narcissism, since the 1980s.



It's All the Rage!

Anger is possibly the most misunderstood emotion. And it's on the rise in American life.

What Does Your Fury Say About You?


How Ire Warps Your Worldview


Learning Not to Lash Out


How to Face Wrath


A Wicked Rage for Recognition



Science Sure Isn't Golden: That Racist, Sexist Psychology Today Essay and the PT Editors



Feel Like Venting? You May Want to Think Again... Literally


She didn't kill him with kindness


Violent Video Games Turn off the Compassion Instinct


Anger and Catharsis: Myth, Metaphor or Reality?


Anger Disorder (Part Two): Can Bitterness Become a Mental Disorder?



Anger Mismanagement

Can Rage Harm Your Heart?

Top 12 Anger Do's and Don'ts

Dealing with Demonic Emotions


Monday, May 30, 2011

Commencement Address

The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination




What I Would Say at Commencement: Advice to New Grads

1. Keep learning
2. Find a great mentor
3. Network
4. Like what you do
5. Give back to your community
6. Have fun
7. Remember where you came from

Your turn:

Do you give advice to new grads? What do you tell them?




Feed Your Brain!

How you chow affects mood, memory, sleepiness—and even whether you can crack a good

The Flavor of Cleverness


How to Eat Smart


Fatigue-Fighting Foods


Building a Better Self


Self-Control Relies on Glucose


What kind of lover will he be?


Music Lessons: They're Not Just for Kids Anymore


Feeling Good Is a Learned Skill


"When I'm good no one remembers.
When I'm bad no one forgets."

Where Did my IQ Go #2? Handling the Hijack


I'll Take a Double Mocha Iced Trenta ... To Go, Of Course

What do you really know about the amount of caffeine you're consuming?


Currying Favor with the Brain


The Twin Effects of Tea


Credit and blame

Bosses who blame

What type of blamer is your boss?
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/credit-and-blame-work/201105/bosses-who-blame

Credit and blame are rarely assigned in an objective or fair manner

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Wisdom and the Foolishness of Crowds

When We're Cowed by the Crowd





The only way to preserve the wisdom of the crowd is to protect the independence of the individual.

The Importance of Live Conversations

Have you ever had a conversation, disagreement or conflict escalate over email? Do you sometimes find yourself engaging in difficult or emotional conversations electronically because it seems "easier," only to regret it later on? If you're anything like me and most of the people I know and work with, you can probably answer "yes" to both of these questions.



Marriage

Does Marriage Make Us Happier?



Success

The Belief That's Sabotaging Your Success

We are all impressed by demonstrations of ability. Pro athletes, computer whizzes, math geniuses, bold entrepreneurs, accomplished musicians, gifted writers -- these people are widely held in admiration because we appreciate their extraordinary aptitudes. And we envy them a little, too. You'd be hard-pressed to find someone who didn't wish that they were a little smarter, a little more creative, a bit better at communicating or perhaps more socially skilled.

So you would think being told that, due to practice and learning, you have gotten smarter(or more creative, eloquent or charming) would be welcome news. Don't we all want to improve? And aren't we all happy when we do? Yes... and no.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/heidi-grant-halvorson-phd/fixed-abilities_b_862140.html



Secrets of Sleep

A good rest is vital to our health and sanity, but it eludes many of us. Too often, the greatest stumbling block to zzz's is ourselves.

How to Get Great Sleep


Dreams: Night School


Strange Bedfellows


The New Nightcap


Has Sleep and Stress Become a Vicious Cycle in Your Life?


7 Simple Ways to Get More Sleep


Five Ways to Revamp Your Sleep Habits


An Idea to Sleep On


To Med or Not to Med


Just Like Clockwork


The Siesta Advantage


Snooze Yourself Thin


Can You Catch Up on Sleep over a Weekend?


Fighting Flight Fatigue

Should High School Start at 11 AM?

Can't Fall Asleep?

A Clue to Parkinson's Disease

Alcohol and Sleep

Feeling Groggy?


6 Mistakes That Can Keep You Up at Night

Instead of spending countless hours lying in bed counting sheep at night, take control of your sleep by learning about the common mistakes people make that sabotage their sleep cycles. There are many mistakes that people make when trying to get a good night's sleep. Instead of helping you to sleep better, these mistakes can actually decrease your chances of sleeping well and may even cause you to have more trouble falling asleep and staying asleep.

Mistake 1: Taking a sleeping pill before trying to improve your sleep in a natural way
People often believe that taking sleeping pills is the answer to their sleep problem. But sleeping is something that should typically come naturally. Sleeping pills can have negative side effects, including psychological and physical dependency, daytime drowsiness and other health consequences. Plus if you try to stop taking a sedative hypnotic, you will typically have worse insomnia for several days, which makes you more likely to pop a pill again when you are feeling frustrated and annoyed in the middle of the night. Research shows that cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is usually the best treatment for insomnia and it doesn't carry the negative side effects that sleeping pills do.
Mistake 2: You spend more time in bed at night with the hope that it will give you a better chance of falling asleep
The more time you spend in bed each night without sleeping, the more you will associate your bed with being wide awake, instead of a restful, sleep-promoting place. This is due to conditioning, and it can actually make it harder for you to fall asleep because your mind and body will think that you are supposed to be awake in bed, instead of relaxed and sleeping. It is really important to only get into bed when you are feeling sleepy and to get up out of bed when you are awake for 20 minutes or more. By spending less time in bed, you can eliminate the frustration of trying to fall asleep when you are not yet ready and develop a more positive association with the bed.
Mistake 3: You believe that you need exactly eight hours of sleep each night to be healthy.
Although it is very important for your health to get enough sleep each night, there is no "golden number" of hours of sleep that everyone must achieve each night in order to be healthy, both physically and mentally. The number of hours of sleep that you need depends on how you feel during the day. That number is different for every person. For example, do you feel fine during the day after six hours of sleep? Are you still able to function well at work, enjoy your free time and not feel sleepy all day long? If so, then six hours may be all that you need and trying to get eight hours of sleep could be futile. However, if you feel like you are dragging throughout the day, have trouble focusing on work and lack the desire to do the things you normally enjoy, then you may be sleep deprived and need eight hours or even more.

Try making sleep a priority and keep track of how many hours of sleep you get for one week. Write down how you feel during the day (energetic, rested, sleepy, etc.) so that you can figure out how many hours of sleep you need in order to keep your energy at a good level during the day. And remember, drinking lots of caffeine can affect how you feel, so don't substitute coffee for getting an extra hour of sleep.
Mistake 4: Taking the wrong kinds of naps.
If you have insomnia, napping too long is a mistake that can sabotage your sleep at night. The amount of sleep you need is added up across a 24-hour period, not just at night. So if you usually need about eight hours of sleep at night to feel rested and refreshed the next day, taking a long nap during the day can reduce the amount you need that night. Since everyone has different sleep needs, it is important to remember that you may need less (or more) sleep than your neighbor, but that you should judge how much you need by how you feel during the day. If you are having difficulties sleeping at night, taking a nap can actually worsen your problems.

Falling asleep easily is dependent not only on how sleepy you are, but also on how many hours you've been awake since you last slept. Taking a nap during the day can make it harder for someone with insomnia to fall asleep at night because it's less time since you last slept.

If you don't have any trouble falling asleep at night, napping may be beneficial to both your mind and body. Resting for 15 or 20 minutes can help you feel rejuvenated. Just be careful that you don't nap for too long or you might end up feeling more sleepy than when you started!

Another way to calm your mind and recharge your body is to find time to relax each day, even if only for 10 or 15 minutes. You can sit quietly with a good book, turn on some music you like, eat a healthy snack, or go for a walk. If you're feeling stressed out, try doing some deep breathing exercises, stretches or taking a hot bath. By incorporating relaxing activities into your daily life, your body will feel rejuvenated and you'll increase your energy levels.
Mistake 5: You have a few drinks before bed to help you sleep better at night.
This is not a good idea. Although at first you may feel drowsy after drinking alcohol and find that you fall asleep easily, alcohol can disrupt your sleep architecture (the stages of sleep) and actually cause your sleep to be less restorative.

When you drink alcohol before bedtime, it can cause you to toss and turn in the latter parts of the night, making your sleep more restless or fitful. Plus you may need to make a few extra trips to the bathroom, which also disrupts your sleep. Don't make the mistake of using alcohol to aide in sleep; it can have more harmful effects than helpful ones.
Mistake 6: You read and watch TV in bed at night.
This is a common mistake that is easy to fix. Watching TV and/or reading in bed activates your mind, assuming that you are paying attention to what you're watching or reading. When watching TV, you have both auditory and visual stimulation, neither of which tells your brain that it's time to shut down. Similarly, turning the pages of a book and actively thinking about what you are reading can keep you awake.

Perhaps you remember a time in the past when you didn't have a sleep problem and you always read or watched TV in bed. That may be the case, but if you do have trouble sleeping at night, you want to do everything you can to help you fall asleep easier. So if you want to read or watch TV at night, do it in another room instead of lying in bed.